I want to start off with another anecdote. When I lived in Vienna, Austria I went to an American International School (as most of you have heard me say, a lot probably). I went to school with kids from all over the world, and these kids came from different cultural, ethnic and racial backgrounds. We are usually referred to as Third Culture Kids (TCK), or children who have spent a significant period of time in one or more cultures other than the one he/she is most familiar with and incorporates that new culture into their own culture at birth. During my five years in Vienna, I don’t recall ever seeing discrimination because someone was of a different race or religion or ethnicity. We were all friends and we were all equal. I didn’t see segregation, in terms of skin color or religion, in the cafeteria, the gym or the classroom. I think this situation is a perfect example of the Contact Hypothesis. We all had equal status, the common goal of succeeding in school and cooperation amongst our peers.
Now for another anecdote. I moved back to the U.S. for high school and I ended up attending a private school in the affluent suburbs of Philadelphia. For the first three years of my high school career I was stuck in this perpetual culture shock. I went from attending a school that had a highly diverse population, to a school that had a mainly a white population of not so diverse people, at least in my view. I didn’t know how to handle it and I ended up pretty much alone for three years of high school. However, I did befriend a few people the first few weeks of freshman year, and they were surprisingly not white. There is a minority population of black students at my high school, most of who commute from inner city Philadelphia. The first few days of classes, two wonderfully friendly black girls immediately accepted me as a friend. It seems that I somehow had automatically gravitated towards what I felt was most comfortable for me, and the people I thought to be the most diverse in my class. I think I had subconsciously sought out the little bit of difference within my high school community. Even though this happened, I still noticed some natural segregation when eating lunch in the cafeteria or sitting in class. Going back to the Contact Hypothesis, though, it seems I subconsciously (because I am only realizing it now) created an equal status between us, thus making way for the other factors of the hypothesis.
Now we can take a look at the dynamics of our group. We are a group of seven people with varying personalities and quirks and differing values and goals and we were put in a situation of having to live with each other in close quarters for about three weeks. An interesting setting to experiment with the Contact Hypothesis. I know we all have one common goal for sure, which is completing this course successfully, which will entail working together, collaborating and communicating with each other to ensure that we all make it out alive, so to say. This puts us on equal status as well, and I think in the end there will be a positive outcome to this trip, even if it isn’t getting the grade you were really hoping for. Being in such close quarters has also made us reconcile our differences, even if that means just agreeing to disagree. I know I have definitely learned a lot for each person in the house, and I’ve learned a lot about myself and realized that there are certain things I need to change. I seem to be adding another identity to the many I’ve established over the years. This trip has ensured that we go through this experience so that we ourselves can perhaps somewhat understand the obstacles South Africa is going through to accomplish reconciliation, but I don’t think our reconciliation is at all as difficult as theirs.